Almost every relationship goes through this phase, but the length of the phase determines the acceptability of your actions. Newly in a relationship, you want to soak up every second together. But eventually you realize you need to do things separately. Like, for example, instead of spending the next 12 hours curled up on his couch, there are things you need to take care of: laundry, gym, self-tanning lotion application (probably would a good idea personally right now as I cannot explain the level of pastiness I’m currently sporting, shudder), etc. It takes effort to maintain your current level of hotness that attracted him in the first place, much less your life.
But you also need to maintain your personal life too. IF you let that fall by the wayside then you’re going to end up living in a metaphorical Gray Gardens of social shambles. What if he wants to hang out with his boys? Who do you call when you no longer have any of your own friends since you've made zero effort to keep up with them in the past few months?
You have to make sure there is a balance. Yes, as I write this, it’s so cold the idea of hibernation sounds like perfection. But take advantage of opportunities to get your friend quota when you can. Yes, especially if you're new in a relationship your friends will cut you some slack about your MIA'ness, we get it, you're happy. But keep in mind that every now and then it’s a great change of pace to have a girls’ night out, especially one that involves dancing to 90's hits.
You don't want to look up one day and realize that after walking with blinders on you no longer have any idea where you are in life.
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