Crazy Girl Syndrome (CGS)

Unfortunately due to my completely inaccurate thought-process regarding dating, not long after I moved I developed a full-fledged case of Crazy Girl Syndrome (CGS).

CGS is the condition where outwardly great females - beautiful, smart, funny, seemingly confident - turn into neurotic, psycho bitches who shamelessly obsess and go after typically unworthy guys far longer than they should. You know the type or maybe you are the type.

Now, CGS can manifest in specific situations and eventually be overcome without (hopefully) causing too much permanent damage. For example, you like a guy, maybe you go out a few times, you text him. Either a) he doesn't respond, b) he responds a lengthy amount of time later, c) his response is half-assed and non-committal. You text again. Maybe you're bolder and you call. Uh oh, he doesn't respond.

Now you're starting to look desperate and you know it. Mental mantra (or friend's wisdom) repeatedly says, "Keep dignity intact! Self-control! Back away from the phone!" Of course this is all far easier said than done... this is a blog about learning things the hard way after all...

Eventually oxygen returns to your brain and you realize he probably sucks anyway. Maybe you never talk again, and that's fine. Then you meet someone who obsesses over you, and you think, "Wow this guy is desperate." Maybe you also make the connection that in the last relationship YOU were that guy... It starts to make sense. You live and you learn.

Unfortunately, some girls just naturally suffer from CGS all their lives, and well, that sucks for them. I know more than a few ladies who are downright amazing but their inner insecurities fuel outwardly crazy behavior and will always remain a roadblock to healthy relationships. "OMG WHY ISN'T HE TEXTING ME!?" Maybe chill the F out and he will...

I am convinced, though, that CGS is a problem that you can overcome no matter how severe the case may be. Like anything else, self-control and understanding your problem and practicing self-control can usually do the trick.